Do you feel as if you play second fiddle to their work? Is it left to you to make excuses to the children, to family and friends because they are late or too busy to attend? Do you send the evenings on your own – even when they are in the house? Is your partner too busy or too tired to pay you the attention you need and deserve? Is your life being affected because of the demands of your partner’s work? Do you feel your own sense of self and your confidence are being eroded because they pay more attention to their work? Are you feeling lonely and left out even though you are in a relationship?
The loss of someone you love is always very difficult but out of bereavement comes a golden opportunity to examine your priorities and to re-evaluate the way things are done.
You may be thinking: “I didn’t need to see those questions in order to recognise that things between my partner and I are difficult because of their work. What I need to know is what to do about it!” Workaholism is no different to the other “….holisms” in that the problem can be very difficult for partners and families to deal with.
Recovering Workaholics can change your life so you can “Create a Life You Love” enabling you to Achieve Health, Happiness and Fulfillment. Recovering Workaholics is an organisation run by Gina Gardiner for those of us who have proved ourselves to be very successful in our career but realise that work simply isn’t enough. It is designed for people who are used to being in high powered positions and have concentrated on building a career rather than a life.
I do hope that 2019 has got off to a flying start! Are you one of those who decided not to make any New Years Resolutions so you didn’t have the pressure of failing to keep them? Did you decide over Christmas that 2019 was going to be the year when you created a great work – life balance? What have you done to change things? Is it working?
The relationship we have with ourselves is based on a number of things, our genetic makeup and hormonal and chemical balance – (nature), how we are bought up – (nurture) and on our interpretation of all our experiences both positive and negative, throughout our lives.
Our interpretation of the world is based on the set of beliefs we have about ourselves and our relationship with the world. If we believe we are lucky, we are much more likely to actually be lucky.
If it happens occasionally it is likely to cause some minor irritation or inconvenience which is short lived. But if it has become the way of life it can be extremely damaging to our sense of self worth and in some contexts our health and well being.
When you are feeling at your most alive – raring to go and full of passion and energy – what are you doing? When you feel tired and out of sorts, pulled down and exhausted what is at the bottom of your lack of energy?
We all play games. No I’m not talking about football, cards or tiddlywinks. I’m talking about the games we play with ourselves and others. The "I’m not going to listen to what you have to say - even if it makes perfect sense, because if I do it will mean that you are right and I’m wrong" game